How to Tell People Their Behavior is Unacceptable

There are people whom we may view as obnoxious, selfish, deluded, pompous, or other negative qualities.  However, you do need to note that these "bad people" do not actually realize that they are doing anything bad.  If you find a person’s behavior as anything but acceptable, here are some suggestions to address that to them.

Ask permission to speak on the matter

Before giving the other person a piece of your mind, ask if he or she would like to talk to you.  Ask them if they have a minute or two to spare in discussing something personal.

Make them realize of their own behavior

Instead of directly telling them that they are selfish and manipulative SOBs, cautiously tell them that their own behavior may be seen as negative for some people and that it may affect relationships with others.  Try to make them realize that all of us want to be accepted, and we would find ways to straighten out our behaviors if it is not at its best.

Listen how they view their behavior

People do not become negative people at an instant.  They may deny that their behavior is unacceptable, but you need to realize how they view their behavior.  It could either be positive or negative according to their perceptions and beliefs.

If they insist, do not force them

When that person insists that there is nothing wrong with their behavior, simply leave it at that.  It is not our responsibility to change their behavior.  They can only change themselves and they hold the option to do so.

How we view about ourselves and others would ultimate shape who we are.  We should understand that our thoughts and emotions would serve us to take necessary actions to bring out the results we want.  When we understand this manifestation, we make conscious efforts to make ourselves better people.

 
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